If someone regularly checks your phone, demands passcodes, or reacts with anger to what they find, that's a recognised form of abuse. You deserve support.
If you're in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. In the US you can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. Elsewhere, search for your country's domestic abuse helpline from a device the other person can't access.
Be careful about sudden changes
A new app, a changed passcode, or deleted history can raise suspicion and make things more dangerous. Advocates often recommend keeping the phone looking normal while you plan.
Check for monitoring
- Settings → Privacy & Security → Safety Check shows who you share location and data with, and can reset access quickly.
- Review Find My → People and Settings → [your name] → Devices for unknown devices.
- Check VPN & Device Management for profiles you didn't install.
Where a vault can help
A vault with deniable vaults and a disguised icon can hold evidence, documents, and contacts without looking unusual. If the app is opened, a decoy vault appears normal.
Keep a copy elsewhere
Evidence on a phone that can be taken or broken isn't safe evidence. An advocate can help you store copies somewhere you control.
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